Monday, January 09, 2006

Therapeutic Talks n Late Nites

e topic for e nite is talk therapy n how it helps get certain poisons outta ones' body..u noe, sometimes human beins need someone to talk to bout their trials n difficulties n bloggin just isn't enuff..we need real human ears n real human interactive responses..mayb someday they'll invent a programme dat generates randomn responses via computer algorithm dat can comfort people under stress or difficulty..but till then..we all still need a listenin ear..

i had a good talk with some buddies over e weekend bout our individual difficulties, problems n pressures faced in camp n life..they're my secondary sch frens who've been with mi for some time n the few whom i talk to regardin my probs...we make it a point to meet regularly for such 'therapy', havin realised earli on wat value dis has..

it started with one of our no, havin difficulties at 1 point in his sec sch life dat led him to drop everythin n 'stone' out at home..a group o' us gathered ourselves n went to hav a chat with him..i guess it took off from there n we had our 1st self-help, talk-therapy group of St Andrews Sch..its great to hav pple u get along with to talk to comfortably bout probs n deep issues as well as insecurities..gal probs, family probs, army probs n financial probs plus hopes, dreams, aspirations n our failures...

when i failed my a-levels 1st time, i talked to these buds...n felt empowered to try again..when i had probs with gals they advised dat gals r not dat important a part of life..how we relate to other pple regardless of sex is more substantial..n when i told them of failed relationshps they told mi dat lovin someone does not mean you have to be with them..settin them free is a greater test of love...n when they are goin thru difficulty in ns, i advise them to hav e mentality,"this too shall pass" n e sun will rise tomorrow as it alwaez does..to e guy who wanted to go into guitar full time after gettin his biz degree at smu we told him to start seriousli lookin for openins n lookin at e market now..thank God he's oso got a good lady lovin him selflessly.. n to e guy who has dis thing on a lesbian..well, i still dun think it'll work out bro..its a 2 way street..they advise n encourage mi n i counsel n support them...

i hav groups of frens for spiritual supp n prayer, groups for hard-nosed realist advice like these n others for shoppin n movie catchin...i treasure them all as my best frens...but e nitez spent talkin bout life n takin stock of e past hav realli been most meaningful to mi..esp as i head off to e University of Newcastle in Australia in Feb..i'm gonna miss u guys man..plus e talks n encouragement u gav mi..like Gabriel oredi at Cambridge, i'll keep in touch n keep bloggin overseas..n we'll meet when i'm back i promise..

so then, if u're a guy(or gal) needin help n advice or prayer, y dun u find a group o' dudes(or chicks; for gals) u can relate to n hang out with for dat background support n soundin out on a regular basis...n do some real serious talkin till e wee hours o' e mornin?

1 comment:

Gabriel Wu said...

Yeah, definitely! I know it's been said many times before: you never really treasure what you have until it's gone.

For me, I realised how important and how blessed I am to have such good friends only when I found myself in a situation without any close friends, i.e. people who understand me, for extended periods of time...

Hey Jon, all the best on your own Jöurnee Educatiönale! And keep blogging!