i'm still stuck on e topic of frenship i guess..i was at a frens b'dae on fri..n we've not known each other long..but goin e extra mile for those aroun u is wat i learned in e army n these years of life..
there was a fren i knew vaguely in St Andrews(Terence, was someone i never got 2 noe well..he was in a neighbourin class, a bit ah beng (while i'm more ang moh pai-until ns at least) n we had different circles of frens..he was in NCC (i think) while i was in e scouts..
afta e o-levels, he went to poly n i, to JC..so i never knew him well..never bcos 1 day when i was in JC 2 i received a message from a close ex-SA fren who knew some in his group of frens..he had racked up a large amount of gamblin debts(on soccer, no doubt) n in a last, desperate bid to escape Ah Long frens..he jumped from his house..din quite soar like superman..quotin Jack Neo from Money No Enough, "Lang zhi lei suai, qi jiao bian gong gui"..
mayb i could hav gotten to noe him betta..or mayb i could not hav done anything..but i came away learnin never to take those aroun mi for granted..sometimes my parents say i spend a lotta time with frens (n wonder if they r zhu peng gou you) but its becos i dun wanna take my frens for granted..(n for e record, family comes first b4 frens still...haha)..
i noe some gals i knew were uncomfortable with how i seek to get to noe them betta..but its alwaezs been with pure intentions n well, i guess after many years..i've learned to b as non-obnoxious n non-chalant as possibl..but e bottom line is..i care for frens as deeply as a certain Great Fren n Brother cared for His disciples..sincere n pure...but unashamedly forward..
Crossing
9 years ago
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hey, are you sure he's called terrence? and was he from ncc?
Cos i know another guy from 4ST and SJAB for a while, who also jumped because loan shark debts. Don't tell me that there are 2 such cases from our year! :O
And yeah, reading through your other posts on friends, like to advice you to go out there and interact, and make a group of close knit friends possibly in a church setting. It may not start out like you'll clique with a group of people very well, but you'll find that as you do more things together, that it will bind your friendships. Guess circumstances make friends, much more than character does.
And i understand your outburst of frustration probably stems from the feeling of extreme loneliness, and disorientation, over there in a foreign land. Had felt really devoid of friends initially, coming over here. Expecially so when the social circles you've established over the past 20 years of your life suddenly dissappears. It get's better after you return home the first time, and as you gradually grow familiar with the people around you.
I know it's tough, but hang in there, bro. And pray for God to lead you through this initially very difficult time. You will realise that your paths with the people you meet will intersect and diverge, but God will always be there by your side. And through all these, you'll find that you'll really grow in your walk with God.
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